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May be it seems so much complicated but here is my brief story i graduated in 2004 since that time i tried to start preparation two times but every times i quit after 4 to 6 months now i start again with my full energy and want to write exam as soon as possible
i have two kids one is 2 other is 5 .my older one born in dec so she can not go to school before coming september .my problem is that i cannot afford nanny plus my husband is typical type (as most of u familiar about desi husbands) he need everything on table fresh food bla bla and he is not in favour to help me out with kids stuff,on the other hand my kids are very much attach to me (as u know raising kids here in USA without help ) they have no other option so they call me for every single thing anyhow this is my whole story may be it look wierd but all this giving me a very hard time to concentrate
i just want to know anyone here who manage without help,i want to know their schedule how they manage
i heard this study takes atleast 6 hr in a day in start and go to 12 hours at the end
i m getting old and now with any cost i want to do it
please help me in this regard coz in my case worst thing is that may parent they have immigration here but even they dont want to come coz they don like here and some cultural thing like they dont want to stay in son in law house
i m broken please help me out

i know someone in ur situation has done all exams now .....
so nothing is impossible
all the best

Thanks for responding i know many hardworkers are there that is why i m asking how they are managing all of this together .please answer my question i know nothing is impossible that is why i started again

Hi If possible try to go to India . There u can leave ur kids with ur mom. U can focus on exam.
for his exam u need to study without breaks.

i tried it too but my kids were sick and hospitalized i stayed there 6 month but due to their illness came back

I guess you can start studying at night once the kids go to sleep. Start with at least 2 hours and once you take a pick , just start increasing the time . Get at least 4 hours to study ,so like me, you'll get there ultimately. It's hard with the kids, I have 3 boys, 7,5 and 1 year old & am trying hard to take exam by the end of this year inshaAllah. Best of luck.

my sister, it's really not easy with kids around but we must accept the fact that we must move forward. firstly, be very humble to your husband and let him see reasons why you need his support, display the highest level of humility, plead and tell him you need him to pass the exams and that you will not be rude to him when you eventually get there. if he accept, his demand on you will reduce. Then with the kids, let them be abit independent, remember that if you are not there,they will cope with life and this thing you are pursuing is also for them to live a better life. Buy cereals, multivitamin supplement and diapers and fruits etc for them, don't overstress yourself cooking for them, let them also endure with you and within a year, you will do all your exams. Most importantly, rely on God and be desperate on passing the exams this year. It's never late. All the very best

inadaan

funmilayo has given u a very good advice ,, i graduated in 2003 .. and i dont feel old .. i feel i can do it like any fresh grad can .. i admire ur determination .. i do not know how to advice u with the kids cos i dont ve any .. but i think u can really try talking to ur convince like funmilayo said ,, it looks like he s the only one who can help u out cos ur parents are not ready and u cant leave them in india ... i ve a fren who has kids and is fighting hard to manage .. but she has her husband to help even though he s doing fellowship and has hardly time . but does his best .. so pls try and convice him ,, its gonna be a better life for all of u if u make it .and thats wat he swore when he got married to u .. to go thru thick and thin together .. till death do us apart ..

can u send the small one to a day care cos thats wat she does ,, i dont know about the older one if they take a 5 yr old in day care .. all the best ..

ok.....let me tell u one thing....i m not even married but i just found out about u r problem with time managment that's why i m responding........u r not doing any job right now.....right??????........so make u r reading schedual on night....i mean u can read 11 to 6 than do u r work till 5....than sleep 5 to 10 after uu r husband cme frm job.....that's way u can take care of evrything........this is just a advice.......

I am a mom with 2 kids too. I passed step 1 with a score of 236 few months back.
i studied for 3-4 hrs only everyday. for the last month i put in like 6-7 hrs .I studied for 9-10 months in total. i am sure you can do it too.