Match! Match! Why she cannot match me?!! - mohanrr

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There are always different women from different race that will make a wonderful wife.
You need two hands to clap . There are plenty of White women who are amazing wife.
There are also plenty of Indian women who are horrible wife.
I absolutely do not think that the best wife in this world is an Indian wife.
Cooking for her/him? There is something we call "take out". If I am an Indian wife, and I am post call and my Indian husband wanted me to cook and clean the house while he sits in front of the tv or the computer, I willl..............................!!!!xyz!!!

The main fault with Indian wife are they are dirty. They don't keep the house clean and don't know what is with them. Whenever I passed by them: Oh Boy!!! They Smell!! (Sorry for being so straight forward!!! Just have to disagree with rat_nj)(No offense to any of my Indian buddies)
I know ...I am going to trigger a lot of anger from my Indian friends.

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Hi,
I still will vote for european or eastern european wife/GF......
My story....I worked for 6 years in research to get green card. Now, having it for 2 years renewed all my USMLE's within 12 months to go for the match (as I have done them 11 years ago).
I am eastern european, being away from home since 1996.
Being married to an american since 1,6 years (but not for green card...). I like a lot my husband and his ideas, compassion, help, support and everything.
Most importantly he likes to cook, hence to eat, drives well and mostly does what I tell him to do (except we have problems on cleaning issue, but at least he doesn't live in the dust and garbage as when i was dating him).
I worked before with chinese in research, I work now as well, but I still don't understand them completely.
anyways GL

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Every applicant for a residency must have a strong supporter. Guys, please love them, and do not hurt them. He/she can support your board examination/matching, he/she devotes lots. Please treasure them, even you become a big doctor. Life is short, but only one who always support you can accompany with you until the end of life. No matter you have as Indian wife, eastern European wife, or Asian wife, or husband. You experience hard time for all steps/matching, and even harder time is facing to you: residency training. Your wife or husband/BF experiences much more than you. Here I wish you guys have a happy life and great future.

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Mohanrr, thank you for your good wishes. I will do my best supporting my GF who is matching too. I also wish she read the posts and knows something from your story.

Anyway, be a man, a great man

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Nedi292, why do you think that Chinese women are not understandable? My GF is a Chinese. She is very nice and works very hard, also is very beautiful. I love her so much. BTW, are you an American guy?

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I must tell you this. In my limited experience never heard such a story from a man.
The rule of thumb here is be a man and let her go. her previous husband did the same thing.
You have all the right to be depressed but with all the well wishers here you should be ok after a while.

By the way you mentioned that she told you she does not love you. Did she ever tell you otherwise in the past? Just curious.

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breezmoon, good luck to you, may be your GF is truthful and the best

I am eastern european

I have seen too many, that after getting green card and better job dump their husbands
(including a korean GF of my husband many years ago who he loved a lot and who dumped him after getting green card for research and subsequently psychiatric residency)

I am not saying we eastern europeans are perfect, but I I have learnt to be more careful and not trusting with things like that

once again good luck to you

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Dr Mohanr.
I am sorry to hear this story, but i would advice to learn from it rather taking revenge or doing something bad to her or yourself. Be educated, civilized and strong minded as you look. Take the appropriate steps. First-live her in her way. it is wrong living with her even after you know that she does not love you anymore. It will look to her that you have Dependant personality and you can not live without her-it looks like this. This way she will go away more and more. If you move away first you may get her back. Waining and crying will harm more your relationship. More over doing to others what you would not like others do to you is not good. Living with a maried women while you know is your mistake. Besides, how could you trust that women that she won't do the same thing to you. Anyway, it is not the end of the world. Take your life in your hands and move forward. Do USMLE steps and be a succesfull and respected doctor as you were, You have done almost 75% of the work helping her. If you want to stay in research focus in your work and do your best. Other things will come. Wish you good luck
Take care

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Ibelieveingod,

You are absolutely right. I always think that she is only my dream and whole hope in USA. What all my life was designed for her. I caught up her very tightly, and concerned too much about her warm, cold, tiresome. I tried very hard to release her from my hand, but I could not.....

Thank you for your suggestion. However, I cannot take the board examination for sure. I am 45 (she is 40) and graduated more than 18 years. First, no program likes old IMG. Second, I am doing good research over here. I have one Science paper year ago, and one Nature Medicine paper this year. I have a small group, but work very effective. I like science, and like the challenges.

I used to have a good ability of self-controlling. But I am too addict in her love, but alternatively maybe her love can be replaced with other word: Utilization. I wish not.

Thanks again, Ibelieveingod