uncommon common sense!!! - irfankhan

[ArchivalUser]

hmmm...thought common sense is very common,think again...well i was in a party yesterday,there a pakistani guy shows up,hes a doctor here in U.S.,so he says to me..so young man,what do u do?.i said well i just graduated,trying to get a spot in residency..immediate next question comes up..what r ur scores?...lolz...well perhaps after staying 20y in U.S.,if u dont know how to talk..its pathetic.!! reasons..no.1.its considered BAD manners here in to ask someone bout their scores...perhaps if he had time to interact with fellow americans ,he shud have known that,there r ways bout how u do things,which docs esp. from india and pakistan fail to realize even after staying here for more than a decade.

favorite questions..

what is ur score!
how many i.v.s.!
what is ur age!
r u married!lolz
how did u get externship(if ur doing one,they will have a follow up question),do u know someone here!
its very tough to get a residency,u cant do surgery,its impossible( that sounds very comforting....)

lolz..all sorts of questions which can make someone uncomfortable.lolz.and these guys r like 50 something...come on ..give me a break! r u kidding me!!..u sound like a 16y old..lolz.

so when ever u meet someone dont hammer him,by asking credentials,how did u get this ot that,ur age!..lolz.its bad manners...

well i told him 88,86,c.s.passed,preparing for step 3,2 i.v.s in surgery,6mnths usce,citizen,26y,have a g.f.,i have a dog named tom,and a cat,its gonna be 14f today,obama gave his inaugural speech,china made a neutron reactor,stock market went down by 120 points.....lolz.

thought common sense is common,think again!!!...lolz.

[ArchivalUser]

lol true

[ArchivalUser]

hahahaha...your a very intelligent guy..thats why i like so much..kkk.

[ArchivalUser]

Give him another 20-40 years. He may learn "Party Manners" if that makes some one presentable. We come from very simple culture and we say whatever we feel like. I don't find him pathetic that he asked that question. I find you not adeqaute because you became uncomfortable answeing that. Party manners also include" being able to talk on any given topic". I will just respect him because he is a 50 year old man rather than putting so many "LOLs" while making fun of someone of your father's age. I am sorry but our parents can never learn the American "Party Manners." If it bothers you, please avoid them in future or may be don't go to " family gatherings" from now on. If you are a caucasian from here, you are simply in the wrong "Party".

[ArchivalUser]

You are pathetic. Those are relavant questions and he thinks he is close to you. When somebody asks personal questions, which means he wants to help you or he thinks you are some way related to him. That's all and take care.

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its not bout party manners or being caucasian or being simple.its bout common sense,when u open ur mouth ,make sure what r u saying,how will it sound to the person or for that what message it gives to the other person.i didnt have any problem answering his questions,but what really amazes me is people dunno what to,how to talk.well it was not a family gathering,it was just a islamic function where all muslims gather ,so u get to meet people of different cultures,its not that am making fun of a particular race or culture,its just that we shud know how we sound to others...thats all.lolz.

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nybk...what ever that means..ur reasoning skills r pathetic!! how do u face i.v.s!!

[ArchivalUser]

I know exactly what you mean. I've had to deal with such lack of social skills its pathetic. These people who have been here for >30+ years have not learned anything in terms of social manners.

Next time one of these fat uncle/aunties like this asks my personal info ( scores, etc) I'm going to ask them their vital statistics or blood glucose score.

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I think they come with open heart and education focus hence they directly address areas of academic scores and next steps related career planning.

Some questions are relevant

1. Career Plans from High School Kids
2. Scores and future plans from College Students
3. Family plans from young adults or new professionals

Being genuine is important rather than being affected. Asian culture is different from western culture and when in company with Asian the dominant culture usually is native.

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I don't agree with #2 ( unless this person is very close to you). They are not the PD and they are not in a position to help. They have no business in asking and passing judgment.